Self Help
Infidelity
The cruelest lies are often told in silence.” — Robert Louis Stevenson There is no bigger paradigm shift that a relationship experiences than in the aftermath of disclosing or discovering an affair. The betrayal cuts deep and shreds not only the trust between the...
Anger Management
Yell, scream, cry, and hit a pillow. Give yourself permission to be angry and stop fighting yourself. Keep a journal. Write down each time you feel angry. What triggered the thought? How long did you feel angry for? What did you do about it and why? After a weeks...
Allowing the True Self to Emerge
Healthy boundaries create healthy relationships. Unhealthy boundaries create dysfunctional ones. By establishing clear boundaries, we define ourselves in relation to others. To do this, however, we must be able to identify and respect our needs, feelings, opinions,...
Tonight’s the Night: Schedule a Sex Date for Sex
Scheduling a date for sex seems like it would kill all the spontaneity that you imagine goes along with an erotic life, right? But think about it. When you were dating, didn’t you know when those hot dates would end in something other than a hot cup of Joe at the...
Box Breathing: A Simple Technique for Stress Relief
Overview Four-square breathing, sometimes referred to as the box breathing technique, is a simple technique that you can do at any time that you feel stressed. Controlled breathing is an integral part of meditation and can be utilized independently to calm nerves and...
When is A Little Holiday Cheer not so Cheerful?
We’ve all heard the justifications. Maybe we’ve even said them ourselves. “It’s the holidays. Everybody drinks a little. Have a little Christmas cheer.” After all, doesn’t everybody want to get into the holiday spirit? So what’s the problem with a few drinks...
How to choose a therapist
How to choose a therapist: You have made an important choice, a potentially life-changing choice: to begin therapy (sex therapy, marriage counseling, couples counseling, individual therapy, or family therapy). But how do you find a good therapist? Do Your Homework:...
Depression
When depression hits, a cloud moves in. Depression steals the light. Through the gray filter of depression, even activities and people who were once before a source of pleasure now feel irritating and overwhelming. Nothing brings joy. Everything’s an ordeal. If you...
Grieving the Break-up
A break-up is like a death. It requires a grieving process. That process is more painful if you are the one being left. When someone in our lives dies, we are hit with a variety of painful feelings, varying from depression, panic, anger, loss. Theorists used to...
GUIDELINES FOR EVALUATING A MATE OR RELATIONSHIP
A singles group once asked me to give a talk on how to know if a potential partner is a good one. I developed this list with the help of Clarrisa Pinkolas Estes' book "How To Love A Woman". 1. In the relationship you feel free to be fully yourself 2. Choose someone...
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Newport News, VA 23606
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