by Anne Aja | Sep 7, 2011 | Therapy
The cruelest lies are often told in silence.” — Robert Louis Stevenson There is no bigger paradigm shift that a relationship experiences than in the aftermath of disclosing or discovering an affair. The betrayal cuts deep and shreds not only the trust between the...
by Anne Aja | Sep 7, 2011 | Therapy
Yell, scream, cry, and hit a pillow. Give yourself permission to be angry and stop fighting yourself. Keep a journal. Write down each time you feel angry. What triggered the thought? How long did you feel angry for? What did you do about it and why? After a weeks...
by Anne Aja | Sep 7, 2011 | Therapy
Healthy boundaries create healthy relationships. Unhealthy boundaries create dysfunctional ones. By establishing clear boundaries, we define ourselves in relation to others. To do this, however, we must be able to identify and respect our needs, feelings, opinions,...
by Anne Aja | Feb 12, 2011 | Therapy
Scheduling a date for sex seems like it would kill all the spontaneity that you imagine goes along with an erotic life, right? But think about it. When you were dating, didn’t you know when those hot dates would end in something other than a hot cup of Joe at the...
by Anne Aja | Jan 11, 2011 | Therapy
Overview Four-square breathing, sometimes referred to as the box breathing technique, is a simple technique that you can do at any time that you feel stressed. Controlled breathing is an integral part of meditation and can be utilized independently to calm nerves and...
by Anne Aja | Dec 21, 2010 | Therapy
We’ve all heard the justifications. Maybe we’ve even said them ourselves. “It’s the holidays. Everybody drinks a little. Have a little Christmas cheer.” After all, doesn’t everybody want to get into the holiday spirit? So what’s the problem with a few drinks...
